10.30.24 - Why I love my girlfriend and lessons from our lovely relationship pt. 1
Even though you may hope that someone who runs a site like this and interfaces with the internet how I do is some lonely loser incel or a burnt out law student with no life, I am actually a strapping young man with a very hot girlfriend and a cute dog. I know, life isn't fair.
This post is about why I love my girlfriend and how she caught a catch like me, and how I caught a smokeshow like her. We're both very lucky.
She was nice to me.Since I met her, my girlfriend has always been nice to me. In the "talking" stage she didn't play crazy games or anything. She showed sincere interest in what I do. She asked me questions. Talking to her was always fun, and even though I got butterflies and all that, it was never this anxious experience like I've had in the early stages of other failed relationship endeavours. That is because she was nice in a very basic way.
I was nice to her.I don't think men should be TOO nice to women from the get go because its disingenuous. It shows that you're not being nice because of anything you've learned about them. Girls don't want a "nice guy" they want a guy who is polite in general but is nice to THEM specifically becuase they like them.
But when a guy TRIES to be all nonchalant and stuff its just corny. I never did that. When I was genuinly interested in my girlfriend, I showed her, I showed her in how I talked to her, in my enthusiasm, in everything. And it was genuine. I took her on very expensive and nice dates (I'm a law student, so I put it on my credit card, worth it in the long run). In courtship, a little bit of hot and cold, a little bit of flirty ambiguity is fun, but in the modern dating scene, where there is so much absolute nonsense and wasted time, sincerity and genuine interest goes a long way. We both demonstrated that to eachother so we got past the threshold where most dating dies.
We're still nice to eachother.Now that we're dating, she is still super nice to me. We call eachother in the morning. We cook for eachother. She packs me lunches when I go on long drives. We write eachother notes. I buy her expensive stuff sometimes. I'm going to put a really expensive anniversary date on my credit card (I'll make money from Big Law, who cares). You can't just get into the relationship then get cozy and coast. You need to keep doing shit.
She's so smart and passionate about the things she does.The thing I maybe like about my girlfriend the most is that she has genuine hobbies and interests. She makes things and learns things and strives for things and likes to tell me about them. In my experience, this is a rare quality in a young woman. I don't even really care about her little hobbies, in themselves, to be honest——I just like that she has them. I'm saying that to clarify that it's not that she likes things I do, she doesn't really, its just that she actually LIKES things. Do you know how many girls out there don't have genuine interests? It's wild. That's one of the reasons I was initially obsessed with her, and still am. It's so cute to watch her work on things. This is the most refreshing thing about her. So, if you're a girl reading this and you want my advice on how to get a cool guy like me, just be interesting and have real hobbies. What's that Tik Tok that made everyone mad? "Spell Pharaoh?" Get a hobby outside of media consumption. The bar has never been lower.
She's resilient.My girlfriend is the strongest person I know, to a level where I genuinely admire and look up to her. Her ability to get through hard times, see the positive side, and still be a source of love and stability in everyone she knows' life is why I resolved to marry her. There is simply no one else like her in that respect. So, tough shit on that one.
She's hot.Can't describe this girl without being disrespectful.
She's pretty.She's also pretty, not only because she was just blessed with a good skull shape, with a healthy canthal tilt, and a jawline that reflects a sound hormonal profile, and a but because her soul is so pure, clean and bright it beams through her skin, and her whole physicality and affect have devloped to mirror her spirit's closeness to god. My girlfriend is pretty because she is pure.
I had more to say but I'll save it for later and label this pt. 1. Anyways I love my girlfriend.
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